Tuesday, March 24, 2009

The Story of Us

Have y'all read Mrs. Newlywed's post this morning yet?? I'm sure you have because she has a bazillion followers..but I have to say it truly touched me. Read her post for all of the information, but she and her husband are having trouble conceiving and things are not looking super optimistic for this to happen for them in the future. This got me thinking....

-What a fabulous man she has married to support her during this time; how would my husband and I handle a situation like this??

-Getting pregnant is not something that will happen for everyone...will it happen for me?? It's easy to think...okay...we're not ready to have kids right this second...but when we are...we'll try to get pregnant and we will. This is not always the case.

-How long do you wait to have kids...and how do you know when you're ready?? We'll never be financially perfect to have kids...who is? But how will we know when it's the right time for us??

So many unanswered questions! Anyone have the answers??

The one thing I do know is that I married a man who will be with me forever...kids or no kids. He's absolutely incredible...which brings me to the purpose of my post:

The Story of Us

Our story begins with four people...CJ, Robert, Matt, and me.

CJ and I met at Purdue my freshman year. We lived on the same floor and we instantly bonded. CJ left Purdue after one year, but we remained close friends. She lived in Indianapolis (same as me at the time) so we were able to see each other during the summer.

CJ and me at my bachelorette party (is this giving away the ending??)

Now, CJ has a brother, Robert. At the time, Robert was living in Colorado. He rarely came home to visit, and I had actually never met him in the two years I had been friends with CJ. Well, the summer between my sophomore and junior year...Robert came home for one week. And guess who is Robert's very best friend??? Matt! Now I could easily stop here...say we fell in love and the rest is history...but that would be a lie :)

CJ AND her mother had their hopes set on Robert and me getting together. He was a cutie...but he lived in Denver. I wasn't sure about the idea of dating someone long distance...but I was enjoying spending as much time with him as possible. I think I stayed the night at CJ's probably 5 of the 7 nights he was home :)

Robert giving the best man's speech at our wedding...told you he was cute :)

Matt spent just as much time with his friend as I did. Every time I was there, he was there. He was working downtown for the summer (it was the summer after his first year of law school) so he'd stop by after work everyday in his suit and bow tie. Oh...what a big dork I thought he was...but he was so much fun and truly hilarious...one could overlook his outward dorkiness.

The four of us had the most amazing week. I wasn't sure where things would go with Robert when he left, but I was definitely interested in him. But...not only him :) The day before Robert left, Matt and I happened to be leaving to go home at the same time. We talked for awhile outside our cars and he asked me for my number. I was one of those people that never said no when someone asked for their number...so I gave it to him. And then we kissed! I have no idea how it happened or why the heck I did that when I was interested in his best friend...but it did :)

The next day, Robert left (we exchanged numbers as well!), and Matt had already called. To this day I remember what his voicemail said. He said that he had to call because he just couldn't wait another day to talk to me. We ended up hanging out about every night that week because I was going on vacation the next week with my family and then I had to go back to Purdue to work until the end of the summer. When I left, I wasn't really sure what we were...but I knew he was interested. He told me he wanted to be together...but that silly long distance thing was not attractive to me...he was going to law school in Virginia! Yuck...I went back to Purdue unsure.

Matt was not unsure. We joke now about how he held our relationship together...and it's the truth. He just kept calling. I talked to Robert a few times...but it was obvious we were not meant to be. I began to give all of my focus to Matt. He came to visit me a few times before he had to leave for Virginia and we had said our "I love yous" by August.

Now I was stuck with the long distance. For 2 years Matt lived in Virginia and I lived in Indiana. I graduated from Purdue and moved home to Indianapolis for one year to go to grad school. Matt moved to Cleveland to begin working. FINALLY...after I graduated from grad school...I moved to Cleveland to be with Matt. Over 3 years of talking on the phone was enough for me. I was a little afraid we wouldn't be able to talk and be in the same room with each other...but everything worked out swimmingly! And now...the rest is history!


Lindsey said...

What a sweet story!!!

Dollface said...

Sometimes things just work out.. what a sweet and inspiring story and a great idea for a blog post for me for later about my hunnie!! xoxo

Brittany Ann said...

Wow! How wonderful! Thanks for sharing it! And we totally relate on the "when it's right to have a baby" question. I hope with a lot of prayer and trust, we all can figure out the right time to conceive/adopt a little (or not so little!) one.

capperson said...

Aww that is such a sweet story and I can tell from the pic from y'alls wedding day that what you said about kids or not that he will always be there. I believe that. Y'all have that wonderful love look that I wont one day when I meet Mr. Right. Congrats on finding a perfect once in a lifetime type man!!

Krystyna Lizabeth. said...

That is such a beautiful story.
thanks for sharing that with us :)
I'm glad God has blessed you with a soulmate.

Mrs. Smith said...

What a perfect story! I have tears in my eyes. I'm such a sucker! :)

And - I don't think anyone has the answers to those questions. I have some issues myself that could cause infertility, and while I know that I'd have the best chance of getting pregnant NOW...well, NOW just isn't the best time for us. If it passes me by, and when we're ready, my body isn't...well, I know I'll be upset. But that's life, I guess!

Did any of that make sense? Hmmm...

Mrs. Stilettos said...

Such a sweet story! I love hearing love stories...

As for when the time is right...who knows - if there is one thing I have learned this year it is that everything is in God's hands and we only have options in our minds...the true plan is Gods!

pocket full of pink said...

What a sweet story!!!

LillySue said...

I am so glad you two are finally together. That Robert is a doll though!! Too bad my daughter is only 16! Yes, remember it is all in God's hands. I had fertility problems and finally had my daughter and son by the grace of God. I started trying at 21 and Holly was born just before I turned 30. Just enjoy each other everyday because once the babies come along, there is not much privacy!! Hehee!
Blessings- LillySue

a H.I.T. said...

What a great story! Thank you for sharing. Mrs. Newlywed certainly is going through a tough time and she sure is blessed to have someone like Mr. Newlywed there to support her. Just like I'm blessed to have Husby, and you and Matt.

The Shabby Princess said...

Aw, how sweet!! What a long road to do the long distance thing, but, how wonderful. Love that wedding picture--your dress is divine!

With Love from New Orleans said...

AHH so sweet!! Ya'll are freakin adorable!!!